http://danihell.tumblr.com/post/150247682/totes-fine

jon: for however crazy you think you are, theres like a couple hundred crazier and worse looking girls who are somehow able to get a dude
jon: thats my positive reinforcement
jon: dont make me repeat it
me: thanks jon.
jon: yeah well you need a guy who will demand you to like them
jon: or rather COMmand you
jon: you dont really respect men at all
jon: wow its like a reverse chauvenist
jon: you sort of just idealize or itemize them
jon: collect them and all
jon: once you get over that youll be totally fine
jon: TOTES FINE
me: you dont think i respect men?
jon: no i dont think so
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was trudging through my archives and found this uplifting gchat from 2009
i've always appreciated jon's insight